I can say that I’ve never suffered from it, but have been on the outside looking in for three people who I’ve leaned on for support throughout my life at varying stages of the illness. I’m not going to name names but suffice to say they are some of the most important people to me that I will ever have.
What’s noticeable from the research I’ve been doing over the past 24-48 hours is that not much focus is put on the people who are involved with the person dealing with depression; be it family, friends or partners. The simple solution is to be there for the person, but that too can be difficult. To be there, you have to understand that this person isn’t the same that you knew before, that somehow their behaviour has been altered and it’s difficult not to be sucked into the same mentality at times; reason being I tend to think that it’s been my fault.
Now I know deep down that simply isn’t the case, but I get this feeling that if the person is unhappy around you, then it’s your fault or at least partly your fault, so you start to feel a bit down yourself thus making the situation worse in the long run.
So what do you do from the outside? Simply ignore it? Behave as if nothing is different even though it quite clearly is? I honestly don’t know for sure, but that has worked for me in the past, so it will work again.
Seeing a doctor was the major comfort; knowing that there is a route cause to the issues which have altered the person’s behaviour means that it can be fixed.
Fixing the issue is half the battle, but I know that what it does it put a marker in the sand. It means that there is a starting process for recovery and that is the most important step for everyone involved.